It seems that everywhere you turn these days be it, newspapers, T.V or social media, the world is immersed in a blanket of hate, anger, fear and sadness. Regardless of what your political, moral or social beliefs are, unless you decide to hide under a rock, it’s impossible not to be exposed to the profound divisions manifesting themselves in our society.
Whilst it might be difficult to escape from the onslaught of negativity that is festering amongst us, there is one thing you ABSOLUTELY can do…
Choose not to be a part of it!
I’m not saying that we all make like Ostriches, bury our heads in the sand and pretend everything’s marvellous. I’m just ‘suggesting’ that we “Don’t fuel the fire, let all the sh*t get us down and overwhelm us!”
Let me ask you some simple questions:
I think I made my point.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Laura Markham at Columbia University has written a lot on the subjects of parenting and specifically, how to help children who are bullied. Her advice:
“A bully wants to provoke a response that makes him/her feel powerful, so showing emotion and fighting back are exactly what the bully feeds off. Your child needs to avoid getting “hooked” no matter how mad the bully makes him.”
Like it or not, the primary ‘bully’ breeding hatred and diversity in today’s society, is unlikely to go away any time soon. So unless you really want to give yourself a bad case of angina, getting angry about things beyond your control, isn’t going to help a heck of a lot.
What Will help you, those closest to you and the community around you is;
The opposite of hatred…LOVE.
The opposite of Fear…HAPPINESS.
The opposite of Anger…PEACE.
Let these be the actions that guide you,motivate you and hook you! Even if it seem’s hard, try to smile, try to smile more than ever! How annoyed will the bully get if we ‘Smile’ and ‘laugh’ instead of cowering in fear and loathing? How much better do we feel when we smile?!
Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison for defying apartheid. When he was eventually released, he did not choose to hate or blame those who were responsible for his incarceration. On the contrary, he became an emblem of peace by reconciling with the individuals who had been the instruments of oppression during his captivity.
We can choose to do the same…
“As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same”
Credits: Photo by Unsplash, lettering on photo & following question infographic designed by Linda Dieschbourg.